Marriage, Relationship & Couples
The relationship you share with your partner is one of the closest, based on intimacy and trust. If you are experiencing difficulties in this relationship, it can be very distressing and your health and happiness may begin to suffer and your family life be affected.
There are many reasons why couples experience problems. It may be that communication has broken down, you are not sexually intimate or sex has become a problem. Trust between you may have been lost. Arguments may be more frequent and repetitive.
It could be that you have become so distant from each other that it is like living together as strangers. Depression and other health problems may occur and no matter how hard you try, you are not able to find a way of sorting things out.
How can I help?
Unlike one to one counselling, couples counselling is about your relationship rather than you as individuals. You will both have the opportunity to talk about what has brought you to where you are and what you’d like to achieve by coming.
I will help you to understand the nature of your relationship, to recognise patterns in how you communicate with each other that are contributing to your difficulties and to find other ways that are more useful. These can include listening to each other, even if you do not like what you hear, and an acceptance that each of your needs and wishes are of equal worth.
Accepting your differences, developing new behaviours and meeting each person's needs in ways that are ok for you both will mean that you can have different and positive experiences together.
I will support you both as you try out new ways of being together and help you deal with problems and conflicts if they arise.
Couples counselling can be very challenging but the rewards are great.
Both partners need to accept that a good relationship requires ongoing and consistent commitment.
A relationship will not look after itself!